Yes, the Bible talks about sex. (And as you read in my last article God still talks about it.) In fact the Holy Bible refers to the act more often than many people realize. And I'm not referring to one night stands, but the intimate relationship between a husband and wife.
Throughout the Bible there are little hidden facts that shed light on this subject. The proper term today may be called sexual intercourse. Different Bible translations will use the terms; to lie with, go into her, or knew his wife. However, I will use the word sex or intimacy just to simplify. I hope that doesn't offend to many people. It's certainly not "making love." But, fallen humanity and society has turn SEX into a misconstrued act or an ugly three letter word. Yet the act or the intention and initiation was and is meant to be something beautiful, rewarding (enjoyable), and fulfilling.
Sex is an important part of an intimate relationship between a man and women who have entered into a marriage relationship and should continue even when they get older. It should also be accompanied with words of love, kissing, sharing secret dreams and desires. The sharing of ones heart, body and soul is necessary for true intimacy. Yet without sex as a major part, you don't have a complete marriage. It's what cements that relationship and makes it difference from any other human relationships. It's like two pieces of a puzzle coming together making a perfect fit. And together with all the other aspects of that relationship you have a complete picture of marriage. Sex is also a gift from God that is to be shared at the right time, and the proper way and for having children. (Unfortunately this gift in some cases has been sacrificed to other pleasures that are out of order.)
There are many ways to have sex. There is also foreplay, which is a part of intimacy also. A time of intimate touching which is pleasing to the other and special for both parties, and it doesn't necessarily have to lead to intercourse. It's just the joy of touching, fondling or caressing and loving each other any time in a gentle manor with your clothes on or off and alone or where other people can't see you. It's another way of letting them one know that they are special and loved. It's whatever you both agree upon that's acceptable. However, this is not meant for public display or public conversation. These acts are for couples to share their desires, passions and emotions under the privileges and guidelines of God in privacy. (Back rubs are also great and so are showers or baths together.) All these acts are meant to give pleasure to each other. (Ruth 3:5-10) Many young people today have learn this by experimenting or reading. However, most have abused their rights and it's intent, and some religious people still have their heads stuck in the sand or have foolish forms of legalism. Sex is the rights of marriage, but is should never be abused or force upon your spouse. And sometimes our rights have to die, because of love.
There are some forms of affection that I feel are acceptable in public, such as holding hands or embracing, or even kissing. But it should be done in a such away that wouldn't grieve the Holy Spirit. One should not be ashamed or embarrassed by you spouse attention in public. Let love be your guide and cherish every moment for you never know when it might end, and then you have to deal with the regrets, because of false pride.
There are some forms of affection that I feel are acceptable in public, such as holding hands or embracing, or even kissing. But it should be done in a such away that wouldn't grieve the Holy Spirit. One should not be ashamed or embarrassed by you spouse attention in public. Let love be your guide and cherish every moment for you never know when it might end, and then you have to deal with the regrets, because of false pride.
If passion and desires are not in a marriage, then something is vary wrong. For some reason or reasons the fire in a marriage seem to die down with age and I don't believe that should be the case. They're part of God's design whether your marriage or not and the normal function of the human body. (Some have chosen to sacrifice those desires in order to be one with Christ in celibacy.) However, to refuse your spouse these pleasures and rights is wrong and reveals there serious problems of resentment and unforgiveness. (Sometimes that's why other people have affairs or get into pornography, but it's not the unpardonable sin. They should be forgiven as soon as possible, because God has. It's also good for ones own health. There are consequences for unforgiveness. Your spouse is not a possession, they belong to God and the Body of Christ, and jealousy is not acceptable. If they are give true freedom, they will rarely want to leave you.) Whatever the problem is, it needs to be taken to God in prayer so He can restore the heart issues. Neither should one use these pleasure to control, manipulate or punish their spouse in order to get their way.
The marriage is a living covenant [a holy contract] between a man and a women. It is established with words of intent (Jesus told us not to make oaths or vows. Matthew 5: 34.) and sealed [consummated] by the shedding of blood [breaking of the hymen] of a virgin bride through sexual intercourse. Although the concept of virginity is almost lost, it is still the intent of God's heart and design.
Whenever we give our life to Christ, we must forsake our sinful ways and live out God's desires and ways. The past is forgiven and all things become new. Therefore, wait until God brings the right person into your life. Or if someone living with another they need to make a decision and forgive each other of their indiscretions (sins) even adultery or second marriages and let God rebuild their relationship the way it should be.
Having sex should be a regular activity in a marriage. It's also the union where the two become one physically (I Cor. 6:16). However, married people should also share the same faith, vision (goal) given to the husband by God. The two parties, husband and wife, have now become ONE totally. One in body, soul and spirit. Together they share oneness with God, and carry out the mission He has ordained for them to establish for future generations, and for the rest of their lives on earth. (Gen. 2:24 and I Cor. 6:16) Again, sex and intimacy is a intricate part of God's plan for marriage, without it ones missing a very special part.
Note: Here's what the apostle Paul wrote the church of Corinth, regarding the subject of sex, and he was a single man of God.
Note: Here's what the apostle Paul wrote the church of Corinth, regarding the subject of sex, and he was a single man of God.
"The husband must fulfill [render] his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by mutual agreement for a time, so that you my devote yourself to prayer, and come together again so that satan will not temp you because of your lack of control." (I Corinthians. 7:3-5)
I have never heard a minister preach or teach on this subject. I wonder why? However, I do know that some have, but not enough of them. Also it seem that Christians who do not have an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ will rarely have one with their spouse. Marriage it about forgiveness and intimacy is a good way of showing it. Most people live their lives far below what God had intended them. I'm believing that will change in this next move of God.
